I'm not pro or anti abortion.

I do think, however that if

1. You've chosen to sleep with me
2. You've chosen not to use protection
3. You've then gotten pregnant

that it would appear that all of those things were your choices as well. Why would you punish someone else because you are unhappy with the outcome of those choices? If anything, at least were it to involve me in any way, because obviously this would not apply to rape or things like that, it was your irresponsibility that got you into this mess in the first place, and just getting rid of the problem is the wrong way to fix your mess.

Similarly, sure, it's your body, but any kid in there would be equal parts yours and mine, not to mention "his own" as well. The minute you decided to allow me into your body was the minute you kind of forfeited the right to make decisions for all three of us. Justifying abortion with the "it's my body and I can do what I want" argument is disgusting. If my body is horny and needs a little lovin, is it within my right to force you to have sex with it? Not really, because that's now involving your body. I have no interest in arguing about fetal sentience, but the simple fact is that while it might be IN your body, that freaky little alien thing growing in there is actually someone else and that is "their body", not yours. How is it in your right to singlehandedly decide what to do with that other person's body any more than it's my right to do the same? Everything leading up to getting pregnant can certainly have the "my body" argument applied to it - that's most definitely all your choice. What happens to your kid affects people besides yourself just as greatly, thus, kind of seems like maybe I should have a say in things too.

There's obvious exceptions to all that, of course. If you aren't willingly pregnant (different from accidentally pregnant), then it's probably best for everyone if you abort. If the father has no interest in helping to support you while your pregnant and being there with you while you figure out what you're going to do, then he probably does not deserve much say as to what happens next.

I think there is certainly place for it, and that even abortion for convenience isn't nessecarily morally wrong. I do however think that the majority of the time, though, it's pretty disgusting and irresponsible, because the obvious way to deal with an inconvenient pregnancy would logically be to not place yourself in situations where it's likely you'll get pregnant, and not making a pile of excuses if it does happen. Guys need to realize that this is their job too, as they are equally responsible for any child that results, regardless of what the woman says or the guy would like to think. It is not hard to avoid being pregnant - I don't think I've used a condom everIt is surely a sign of advanced civilization that we are in a position where these choices are even an option, but frankly I'm really, really more and more appalled at the whole "Brave New World" attitude towards this type of thing.

I would not say "don't do it!", but maybe put a little more thought into what your doing and why you are where you are before you do.

I'm glad I will likely never date a girl with whom any of this is an issue with every again.